6 Tips to Help With Holiday Stress

We all know that the holidays can be stressful with the many demands of shopping, baking, parties and the expectation that you should be filled with cheer and goodwill. This is all daunting under the best circumstances, but if you are also losing your vision to eye diseases such as glaucoma, age-related macular degeneration or diabetic retinopathy, the depression can increase.

6 Tips to Help With Holiday Stress

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Being realistic, planning ahead and asking for help will let you deal with the stress and depression that may come with the holidays. Here are six tips that will help you deal with the pressures of the holidays, with additional tips for those with vision loss.

  1. Begin by realizing you don’t have to be happy just because the holidays are here. You may have experienced a loss of someone close to you that makes celebrating the holidays hard.
     
    With vision loss: You may miss seeing or putting up decorations; baking for friends and family; or seeing the joy and smiles of loved ones. You can’t force yourself to be cheerful because of the time of year.
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  3. While the common reaction to depression is stay home and isolate yourself, don’t, it will only make you feel worse and dwell on things you cannot change. Join friends when they ask you out, find community events to attend or volunteer. Sharing time with others can provide a welcome distraction and lift your spirits.
     
    With vision loss: It is common to be uncomfortable with asking friends and family for a ride, but if they are attending the same party of community event, ask them if you can get a ride. They won’t mind a will be glad you are there. Worst case, call a taxi or use Uber.
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  5. Don’t expect perfection. You need to define for yourself what would make a great holiday and not let the media and retail stores tell you what the holidays should be. Also remember that your traditions will change as your family changes and grows. Look at this as an opportunity to be creative and start new traditions.
     
    With vision loss: Scale your holiday to what is comfortable to you. If fewer decorations make it safer and easier for you to navigate around your home, then reduce the number of things that go up to a few larger items you can enjoy more easily – you can even “decorate” with holiday music.

    Even traditions may need to change. Allow someone else to host the family or neighborhood celebrations. It is nice to pass the honor on and you won’t be so stressed and tired you can’t enjoy the festivities.

  6. Plan ahead so you don’t feel the pressure. This refers to budgeting both time and money.
         • Plan extra time for decorating, shopping, baking, wrapping presents, or any other activity you want to include. Rarely do things run smoothly, especially at holiday time.
        • Decide how much money you can spend, and stick to it. To make money go further, give homemade gifts, start a gift exchange instead of shopping for everyone in your family or office, or make a donation to a charity in someone’s name.

    With vision loss: The same concepts apply – you need to budget your time and money.

  7. Don’t over extend yourself and learn to say no. If you don’t you may become resentful and overwhelmed. Friends and family will understand if you can’t do everything. If your guilt gets the better of you, ask the person making the request to help with the tasks. They will gain a new appreciation of what you do.
     
    With vision loss: Don’t be afraid to let people know that you may not be able to do things as easily as you could in the past. No one, except you, know the limitations you have with your vision. It can be very uncomfortable for others if they think they are asking too much of you, and you could become resentful for being asked to do something beyond your capabilities.
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  9. Stay healthy. The best way to do this is to watch what you eat and drink, get plenty of sleep, continue any exercise routine you have and take time to relax.
         • You will be tempted with lots of sweets and snacks. Try eating something healthy like cut veggies before you go to the party to curb your appetite. Remember to limit your alcohol because of the calories and the fact that it is a depressant.
         • Sleep will keep you alert and better able to focus what you want to get done and will help keep you more positive.
         • Exercise is a great way to help relieve the stress you feel, give you an extra burst of energy and help you clear your head.
         • Taking 15-20 minutes to just listen to music, take a bath, go for a walk or read book can help you think more clearly and relax. You will actually get more done when you can “re-charge” yourself.

    With vision loss: Everything listed above is good for good eye health. A good diet of brightly colored fruits and vegetables and exercise are very important. Being tired can affect how well you see, and stress has been known to have an adverse effect on a person’s vision.

Because of the busy holiday season, this month we will only be publishing once a week, on Tuesdays.

12/8/15

Susan DeRemerSusan DeRemer, CFRE
Vice President of Development
Discovery Eye Foundation

7 Healthy Eating Tips for the Holidays

12/16/14

Every year the holidays come around to tempt us with a variety of wonderful foods. It doesn’t make any difference if its Christmas or Hanukah, food is an integral part of the celebration. And the celebrations are pretty non-stop from Thanksgiving through New Year’s. Here are seven healthy eating tips for the holidays to help you handle all the delicious temptations of the season (the average person says they gain around five pounds).
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1. Eat before you go – Have a small healthy snack before you go to the party, to help control your appetite once you get there. Some great snacks include, cut up fresh vegetables, small handful of nuts (remember to make it small as they have quite a few calories, but they are healthy and filling), low-fat string cheese, etc.

2. Select wisely – When confronted with an open bar ask for club soda, tonic water or even tomato juice. Still want that glass of wine? Add some club soda to make it a wine spritzer and cut some of the calories. Once you have your drink, walk as far away from the bar as possible. Another good reason beside calories to cut down on alcohol – you will be able to drive home safely.

3. Strive to be the last in line – This works well in two ways, first being that once the food is picked over it doesn’t have the visual impact of the buffet when everything is presented in its perfection, making your mind go into overload as you try to decide what all to pile on your plate. Second, by the time you go through not everything might be available, and what’s left might not let you take too large of a helping.

4. How to use your plate – If you have more than one size plate to choose from, select the smallest one. Also know that filling your plate does not mean you have to cover every square inch with food, nor do you have see how high you can layer food. You are better off making more than one trip. On the first trip start with vegetables and salads while you scan what else is available. Then you can go back for small portions of what you think are the three best offerings.

5. Lend a helping hand – If the pull of the buffet becomes too strong, help out your hosts by pouring drinks, taking dirty dishes to the kitchen, even helping clean dishes.

6. Leave the party empty-handed – No matter how grateful your hosts are for you attending, do not take home any of the leftovers. No matter where you hide them in the refrigerator, you will still know they are there.

7. Elastic is not your friend – As you socialize and catch up with old friends you can get distracted, making it hard to watch what you eat. You are better off wearing something fitted, or at least with a regular waistband, to remind you that you might be eating too much. Belts are great as long as you don’t adjust them after getting to the party.

Just because a food is healthy, it doesn’t mean that it is low in calories. As you fill your plate, select foods that “bright and colorful.” These will generally be healthier options with a lower calorie count, such as fresh fruits and vegetables. But remember that fruits, because of their higher sugar content, will have more calories. Also the “bright and colorful” approach won’t work at the dessert table with brightly-decorated cookies, cakes and pies.

Here is a color palate to get you started:

RED – tomatoes, red peppers, kidney beans, strawberries, cranberries

ORANGE/YELLOW – pumpkin, butternut squash, yellow peppers, citrus fruit

GREEN – kale, spinach and other green leafy produce, broccoli, asparagus, apples, green peppers

BLUE/PURPLE – purple cabbage, eggplant, blueberries, plums, blackberries

Two bonus tips:

1. Shopping is stressful – Even when you are shopping you will be surrounded by food, especially at the mall where food courts and food kiosks offer a variety of “quick” snacks and meals. Plan ahead. You know what your shopping area has for you to eat. Find a healthy option that offers you good fiber and protein and plan to go there for lunch. Taking a lunch break will keep you from snacking all day and help you power through an afternoon of shopping. If you need snacks, pack something healthy in your purse.

2. Moms and baking go together – There is something about the holidays that brings out the baker in every mom. So when you go home, or even if mom arrives at your house, you will be presented with baked goods filled with love . . . and calories. Here is where avoidance won’t work, you need to rely on strategic moderation. Choose just a few samples to keep and enjoy, then either take the rest to the office, or make goodie gift bags for the mail or UPS delivery person, your manicurist, paperboy, etc. Mom will be pleased that you want to share her baking expertise.

And if you are the mom making these baked goods – try making fewer in December and spread them throughout the year. Less stress for you, and whom wouldn’t want to eat a spritz cookie in July?

Susan DeRemerSusan DeRemer, CFRE
Vice President of Development
Discovery Eye Foundation